{"id":5095,"date":"2014-05-09T06:41:59","date_gmt":"2014-05-08T23:41:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/xuanbichvietnam.net\/trangchu\/?p=5095"},"modified":"2014-05-09T06:41:59","modified_gmt":"2014-05-08T23:41:59","slug":"chuyen-phiem-dao-doi-doc-trong-tuan-iv-phuc-sinh","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/xuanbichvietnam.net\/trangchu\/chuyen-phiem-dao-doi-doc-trong-tuan-iv-phuc-sinh\/","title":{"rendered":"CHUY\u1ec6N PHI\u1ebeM \u0110\u1ea0O \u0110\u1edcI \u0110\u1eccC TRONG TU\u1ea6N IV PH\u1ee4C SINH"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201c\u0110\u00eam qua say ti\u1ebfng \u0111\u00e0n,\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u0110\u00f4i chim uy\u00ean \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u01b0\u1eddng\u00a0<\/em>
\nChim b\u00e1o tin Xu\u00e2n \u0111\u00e3 v\u1ec1 trong gi\u1ea5c m\u1ed9ng.<\/em><\/p>\n

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(Ph\u1ea1m Duy \u2013 \u0110\u00eam Xu\u00e2n<\/em>)<\/p>\n

(Mt 19: 4-7)<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Th\u00fa th\u1eadt v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 v\u1edbi t\u00f4i r\u1eb1ng, khi nghe xong b\u00e0i \u201c\u0110\u00eam Xu\u00e2n\u201d <\/em>c\u1ee7a Ph\u1ea1m Duy, b\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea1o b\u1ea7y t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft l\u00e0 m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 nghe nh\u1ea7m\/nghe l\u1eabn g\u00ec kh\u00f4ng n\u1eefa. Th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0o \u0111\u00eam xu\u00e2n, ta v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 m\u00ea say ti\u1ebfng ph\u00e1o hay ti\u1ebfng nh\u1ed9n nh\u1ea1o t\u1eeb bu\u1ed5i nh\u1eadu nh\u1eb9t c\u00f3 bia\/c\u00f3 r\u01b0\u1ee3u, ch\u1ee9 ai l\u1ea1i say ti\u1ebfng h\u00e1t ho\u1eb7c \u201cti\u1ebfng \u0111\u00f4i chim \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u01b0\u1eddng\u201d \u0111\u1ea7y t\u00ednh l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 l\u1eddi d\u1eabn nh\u1eadp c\u1ee7a ch\u00e0ng trai h\u1ecd Tr\u1ea7n trong \u0111\u00eam nh\u1ea1c \u201cH\u00e1t Cho Nhau Nghe\u201d h\u00f4m 18\/3\/14 v\u1ec1 b\u00e0i h\u00e1t n\u00e0y do Ph\u1ea1m Duy t\u1eb7ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 m\u1edbi c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng l\u00e0 ca s\u0129 Th\u00e1i-H\u1eb1ng.<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Th\u00f4i th\u00ec, say g\u00ec th\u00ec say, nay ta th\u1eed nghe c\u00e2u ti\u1ebfp xem ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngh\u1ec7 s\u0129 c\u00f3 say g\u00ec n\u1eefa kh\u00f4ng:<\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u201cEm y\u00eau c\u00e2u h\u00e1t bu\u1ed3n,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

L\u1ea3 l\u01b0\u1edbt trong m\u00e0n tr\u0103ng,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Y\u00eau tr\u1eddi thanh v\u1eafng,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

\u0110\u00f3n \u0111\u01b0a em t\u1edbi ch\u00e0ng.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

H\u1ed3n em ch\u00f9ng \u0111\u00eam t\u1ed1i,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

T\u00ecnh em c\u00f2n ch\u01a1i v\u01a1i,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

L\u00f2ng em ch\u01b0a t\u00e0n,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Xin \u0111\u1eebng nh\u1ea1t phai.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1eebng nh\u1ea1t phai.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n

(Ph\u1ea1m Duy \u2013 b\u0111d<\/em>)<\/p>\n

\u00a0V\u00e2ng. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3, l\u00e0 con d\u00e2n nh\u00e0 \u0110\u1ea1o hi\u1ec7n c\u0169ng \u0111ang m\u01a1 m\u00e0ng khi nghe tin t\u1ee9c c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00e0 h\u1ed3i h\u1ed9p, nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cNg\u00e0y 2 th\u00e1ng Gi\u00eang n\u0103m 2014 v\u1eeba qua, t\u1edd b\u00e1o mang t\u00ean \u201cJournal\u201d \u0111\u00e3 m\u00f4-t\u1ea3 kh\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea3o: \u0110\u1ee9c Gi\u00e1o Ho\u00e0ng Phanxic\u00f4 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ea5ng b\u1eadc nh\u00e0 \u0110\u1ea1o c\u0169ng n\u00ean th\u1eed x\u00e9t xem n\u0103m 2014 n\u00e0y, ra sao: <\/em>\u201cTr\u1ea3i qua nhi\u1ec1u th\u00e1ng ng\u00e0y s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1eddi b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, d\u00e2n con \u0111\u1ea1o m\u00ecnh hy v\u1ecdng l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea5ng b\u1eadc quy\u1ec1n-l\u1ef1c t\u00edt tr\u00ean cao s\u1ebd c\u00f3 l\u1eadp tr\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng\/uy\u1ec3n chuy\u1ec3n kh\u00e1c h\u1eb3n khi gi\u00e1o h\u1ed9i b\u00e0n v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c nh\u01b0: \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh luy\u1ebfn \u00e1i, ly d\u1ecb\/ly th\u00e2n, m\u00f4i-tr\u01b0\u1eddng sinh th\u00e1i, v\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngh\u00e8o, Gi\u00e1o Ch\u1ee7 nh\u00e0 m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft r\u1ed3i ra c\u00f3 c\u1ea3i-t\u1ed5 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gu\u1ed3ng m\u00e1y c\u1ed3ng-k\u1ec1nh l\u00e0 Vatic\u0103ng n\u1eefa kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e2y, ch\u00ed \u00edt l\u00e0 ch\u1ec9nh-\u0111\u1ed1n vai-tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a n\u1eef-gi\u1edbi trong Gi\u00e1o h\u1ed9i.<\/p>\n

\u00a0Theo t\u00f4i, sau khi duy\u1ec7t-x\u00e9t c\u00e1c k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng kh\u00f4ng mang t\u00ednh quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh, xem ra c\u00f3 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 b\u1ed1n ng\u1ed9 nh\u1eadn\/sai s\u00f3t n\u01a1i kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh tr\u00ean v\u00e0 th\u00eam m\u1ed9t l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m n\u1eefa khi n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 \u201cvai tr\u00f2\u201d c\u1ee7a Gi\u00e1o h\u1ed9i. B\u1edfi, th\u1eadt c\u0169ng kh\u00f3 cho nh\u1eefng ai c\u1ee9 nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o gi\u00e1o h\u1ed9i qua l\u0103ng-k\u00ednh ch\u00ednh-tr\u1ecb \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i lo\u1ea1i nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. Th\u1eadt ra, vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a \u0110\u1ee9c Gi\u00e1o Ho\u00e0ng l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 t\u01b0-th\u1ebf c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c v\u1ecb th\u1ee7 t\u01b0\u1edbng ho\u1eb7c nguy\u00ean-th\u1ee7 qu\u1ed1c-gia \u1edf ngo\u00e0i \u0111\u1eddi. N\u00f3i th\u1ebf t\u1ee9c b\u1ea3o r\u1eb1ng: th\u1eadt ra, thay \u0111\u1ed5i h\u00e0nh ch\u00e1nh\/l\u00e3nh \u0111\u1ea1o v\u1edbi gi\u00e1o h\u1ed9i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 s\u1ebd c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed5i- thay l\u1eadp-tr\u01b0\u1eddng\/quan-\u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a to\u00e0n-kh\u1ed1i C\u00f4ng-gi\u00e1o.<\/p>\n

\u00a0Theo t\u1ea7m-nh\u00ecn c\u1ee7a Gi\u00e1o-h\u1ed9i, th\u00ec T\u00edn L\u00fd\/t\u00edn \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 \u201cquan \u0111i\u1ec3m\u201d c\u1ee7a b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 ai, nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft \u0111\u00e3 \u1ed5n-\u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt c\u1ee7a nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c\u201d (xem George Weigel, what popes can and can\u2019t do<\/em>, The Catholic Weekly 19\/1\/2014, tr. 8).<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 R\u00f5 r\u00e0ng l\u00e0 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. Nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, t\u1ee9c: b\u00e0 con trong \u0110\u1ea1o m\u00ecnh ch\u1edb n\u00ean hy-v\u1ecdng v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed5i thay v\u1ec1 ch\u00ednh ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a con d\u00e2n trong \u0110\u1ea1o v\u1ec1 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9\/nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec7n m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u00e0 \u0110\u1ea1o s\u1ed1ng \u1edf trong \u0111\u1eddi, th\u1ea5y c\u0169ng h\u01a1i khang kh\u00e1c. H\u01a1i kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0 c\u00e2u h\u00e1t ti\u1ebfp:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cCh\u01b0a quen nhau l\u00fac \u0111\u1ea7u,\u00a0<\/em>
\nEm nghe theo ti\u1ebfng s\u1ea7u,
\n\u00f4i kh\u00fac ca nu\u00f4i m\u1ed1i t\u00ecnh mu\u00f4n s\u1eafc m\u00e0u.
\nEm ph\u00f4i pha th\u00e1ng ng\u00e0y,
\nV\u00ec l\u00fac tr\u0103ng v\u1ec1 \u0111\u00e2y,
\nV\u1eafng \u0111\u00e0n \u0111\u00eam \u1ea5y,
\n\u0110\u00e3 ru tr\u00e1i tim n\u00e0y\u00a0.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/em>(Ph\u1ea1m Duy \u2013 b\u0111d<\/em>)<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/em>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Th\u1ebf \u0111\u1ea5y. V\u1ed1n d\u0129 \u201cch\u01b0a quen nhau ph\u00fat \u0111\u1ea7u<\/em>\u201d, m\u00e0 sao em c\u1ee9 \u201cnghe theo ti\u1ebfng s\u1ea7u<\/em>\u201d \u0111\u1ec3 r\u1ed3i s\u1ebd\u00a0 \u201cph\u00f4i pha<\/em> (bao) th\u00e1ng ng\u00e0y<\/em>\u201d, v\u00e0 nay \u0111\u00e3 \u201cru tr\u00e1i tim n\u00e0y<\/em>\u201d. Tr\u00e1i tim n\u00e0y, em c\u00f3 ru hay c\u00f3 \u201ccho\u201d nhi\u1ec1u cho l\u1eafm c\u0169ng s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh l\u1ea1i c\u1ee9 mang t\u00ean h\u1ecd c\u1ee7a ch\u00e0ng trai khi x\u01b0a mang t\u00ean h\u1ecd l\u00e0\u201cV\u0169 Nh\u01b0 C\u1ea9n\u201d, t\u1ee9c \u201cv\u1eabn nh\u01b0 c\u0169, r\u1ea5t nh\u01b0 x\u01b0a. Nh\u01b0 x\u01b0a hay nh\u01b0 c\u0169, c\u0169ng l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1 c\u0169, \u00e0 r\u1ea5t \u01b0 l\u00e0 \u201c\u1ee7 r\u0169\u201d \u0111\u1ebfn ph\u00e1t bu\u1ed3n! Th\u1ebf nh\u01b0ng, c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9\/nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ef1 v\u1eabn kh\u00f4ng bu\u1ed3n nh\u01b0 kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1ec1 c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n m\u00e0 b\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea1o v\u1eeba b\u1eaft g\u1eb7p \u1edf m\u1ea1ng th\u00f4ng tin c\u00f3 t\u00ean l\u00e0 MercatoNet <\/em>c\u00f3 c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n li\u00ean-quan \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ec1-t\u00e0i y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng y\u00eau r\u1ea5t c\u0169\/m\u1edbi, nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cTrong s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1eadt c\u00f3 th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 c\u00f3 y\u00eau, bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 k\u1ebb tr\u01b0\u1edbc\/ng\u01b0\u1eddi sau c\u1ee9 l\u1ee5c t\u1ee5c \u0111i l\u00e0 \u0111i. K\u1ebb \u0111i b\u01b0\u1edbc tr\u01b0\u1edbc, l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n anh\/\u0111\u00e0n ch\u1ecb kinh nghi\u1ec7m bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng h\u01a1n, v\u00e0 gi\u1edbi tr\u1ebb c\u1ee9 l\u1ebdo-\u0111\u1ebdo theo sau, v\u1eabn mu\u1ed1n h\u1ecfi kinh-nghi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 y\u00eau v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u01a1ng nh\u01b0ng c\u1ee9 ng\u1ea1i, ch\u00ed \u00edt l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n h\u00f4n-nh\u00e2n gia-\u0111\u00ecnh. Th\u1ebf nh\u01b0ng, \u0111\u1ecdc ti\u1ebfp nh\u1eefng gi\u00f2ng b\u00ean d\u01b0\u1edbi, h\u1eb3n b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 t\u00f4i, ta s\u1ebd thay-\u0111\u1ed5i \u00fd-ki\u1ebfn, c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t l\u1eb9. Mau v\u00e0 l\u1eb9, l\u00e0 b\u1edfi m\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f3 t\u00e1c-gi\u1ea3 t\u00ean l\u00e0 Gerald Rogers m\u1edbi v\u1eeba ho\u00e0n-t\u1ea5t th\u1ee7-t\u1ee5c ly-d\u1ecb xong, \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i cho th\u1ebf-h\u1ec7 tr\u1ebb nh\u1eefng 20 \u0111i\u1ec3m then-ch\u1ed1t nh\u1eb1m duy-tr\u00ec t\u00ecnh-y\u00eau c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t \u01b0 l\u00e0 son tr\u1ebb c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. <\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u00e0 t\u00f4i th\u1ea5y r\u1ea5t c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i, xin ghi l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ec3 tu\u1ef3 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 n\u00e0o th\u00edch th\u00ec c\u1ee9 vi\u1ec7c gi\u1eef l\u1ea5y cho m\u00ecnh…\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/em>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Xin c\u1eaft ngang gi\u00f2ng ch\u1ea3y c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n T\u00e2y\/T\u00e0u v\u1eeba \u0111\u01b0a ra b\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t gi\u00f2ng nh\u1ea1c tuy\u1ec7t c\u00fa r\u1ea5t \u0103n kh\u1edbp m\u00e0 ngh\u1ec7 s\u0129 nh\u00e0 m\u00ecnh l\u1ea1i v\u1eabn h\u00e1t:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cH\u1ed3n em t\u00ecm n\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e1u,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

T\u00ecnh em ch\u1edd th\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111au,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

L\u00f2ng em ch\u01b0a t\u00e0n,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Xin \u0111\u1eebng ph\u1ee5 nhau.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Xin \u0111\u1eebng ph\u1ee5 nhau.\u201d\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

(Ph\u1ea1m Duy \u2013 b\u0111d<\/em>)<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 V\u00e2ng. \u201cXin \u0111\u1eebng ph\u1ee5 nhau\u201d, <\/em>l\u00e0 \u0111\u00f4i \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00ednh-y\u1ebfu v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh-y\u00eau h\u00f4n-nh\u00e2n r\u00fat t\u1eeb \u00fd-ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Gerald Rogers l\u00e0:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u201cCh\u1edb bao gi\u1edd ng\u01b0ng t\u00e1n t\u1ec9nh v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 c\u0169ng \u0111\u1eebng ng\u1ea1i h\u1eb9n h\u00f2. C\u0169ng \u0111\u1eebng l\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfng khi th\u01b0\u01a1ng y\u00eau.<\/em><\/p>\n

-H\u00e3y b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 con tim c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. B\u1edfi, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ch\u1ed7 \u0111\u1eb7c-bi\u1ec7t trong t\u00e2m-can b\u1ea1n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ai \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p ch\u1ec5m-ch\u1ec7 ng\u1ed3i v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, ngo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. <\/em><\/p>\n

-Ph\u1ea3i lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n th\u1ea5y n\u01a1i v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m son tuy\u1ec7t-v\u1eddi. H\u00e3y t\u1eadp-trung v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng g\u00ec khi\u1ebfn m\u00ecnh \u00e2u y\u1ebfm, y\u00eau th\u00edch v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh nh\u1ea5t. B\u1edfi, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd c\u00f2n tr\u1ea3i r\u1ed9ng ra nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n n\u1eefa. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n ch\u00fa \u00fd v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng g\u00ec khi\u1ebfn m\u00ecnh \u01b0u-t\u01b0, phi\u1ec1n-mu\u1ed9n, th\u00ec nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n nh\u1eadn ra l\u1ea1i s\u1ebd l\u00e0 l\u00fd-do khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n cay-\u0111\u1eafng\/mu\u1ed9n-phi\u1ec1n, r\u1ea5t kh\u00f4ng vui. C\u00f2n, n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 ch\u00fa t\u00e2m v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh \u01b0a th\u00edch, th\u00ec ch\u00ednh b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 \u01b0a-th\u00edch m\u1ed7i t\u00ecnh-y\u00eau th\u00f4i. <\/em><\/p>\n

-\u0110\u1eebng kh\u00f9ng \u0111i\u00ean\/d\u1ea1i kh\u1edd m\u00e0 t\u1ef1 h\u00e0nh-h\u1ea1 m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch qu\u00e1 \u01b0 l\u00e0 nghi\u00eam-kh\u1eafc. H\u00e3y c\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1eadt nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0 l\u00e0m m\u1ecdi c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u0169ng c\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e0nh ti\u1ebfng, gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh. B\u00f4ng \u0111\u00f9a\/c\u01b0\u1eddi vui, s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u1eb9 nh\u00f5m, d\u1ec5 ch\u1ecbu h\u01a1n. <\/em><\/p>\n

-H\u00e3y s\u1ed1ng th\u1ef1c. T\u1ee9c, lu\u00f4n t\u1eb7ng ban cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh t\u1eebng y\u00eau-d\u1ea5u kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed7i th\u1eddi-gian m\u00ecnh s\u1ed1ng m\u00e0 th\u00f4i, nh\u01b0ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 b\u1eadn-t\u00e2m, \u01b0u-\u00e1i v\u00e0 t\u00e2m-h\u1ed3n m\u00ecnh n\u1eefa. H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh t\u1eebng \u00e2u-y\u1ebfm nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t kh\u00e1ch h\u00e0ng qu\u00ed-gi\u00e1 h\u01a1n ai h\u1ebft. B\u1edfi, v\u1ee3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i h\u1ea1ng nh\u1ea5t h\u1ebft. <\/em><\/p>\n

-H\u00e3y s\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ch\u1ee9ng-t\u1ecf r\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. H\u00e3y s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng chia s\u1ebb m\u1ecdi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, c\u1ea3 n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 tr\u1ecb v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p-nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh sai tr\u00e1i c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u. <\/em><\/p>\n

-Ph\u1ea3i s\u1ed1ng trong s\u00e1ng, th\u1eadt t\u00ecnh m\u1edbi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i-ng\u1eabu ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n tin-t\u01b0\u1edfng b\u1ea1n th\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m s\u1ebb-san h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y m\u1edbi \u0111\u00fang. Ph\u1ea3i can \u0111\u1ea3m ch\u1ee9ng-t\u1ecf m\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 v\u00e0 tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n. Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng t\u00e2m can m\u00ecnh; v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed5i l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu m\u1edbi tin-t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u01a1ng y\u00eau m\u00ecnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. <\/em><\/p>\n

-\u0110\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd ng\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i, khi hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f9ng nhau quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng v\u1ec1 ph\u00eda tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u. H\u00e3y t\u00ecm ra m\u1ee5c-ti\u00eau n\u00e0o m\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eafm t\u1edbi. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9ng \u01b0\u1edbc c\u00f9ng c\u00f3 \u00fd h\u01b0\u1edbng ph\u00e1t-tri\u1ec3n, c\u00f9ng ng\u00e0nh-ngh\u1ec1 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nhau…<\/em><\/p>\n

-\u0110\u1eebng ch\u1eadm-tr\u1ec5 th\u1ee9 tha cho nhau v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1ea7m nh\u00ecn c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0o t\u01b0\u01a1ng-lai mai ng\u00e0y, h\u01a1n l\u00e0 c\u1ee9 c\u00e2n \u0111ong \u0111o \u0111\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec7n thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9, r\u1ea5t qua mau. <\/em><\/p>\n

-H\u00e3y lu\u00f4n ch\u1ecdn th\u01b0\u01a1ng-y\u00eau nhau. N\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean-t\u1eafc d\u1eabn-d\u1eaft \u0111\u00f4i l\u1ee9a, th\u00ec ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec ph\u1ea3i lo s\u1ee3 r\u1eb1ng h\u1ea1nh-ph\u00fac h\u00f4n-nh\u00e2n s\u1ebd b\u1ecb \u0111e do\u1ea1.<\/em><\/p>\n

-Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng th\u00ec, s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1eddi h\u00f4n-nh\u00e2n v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0: r\u1ed3i ra ta s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ea1t h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, m\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n h\u1ee3p-t\u00e1c \u0111\u00f4i b\u00ean \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i. L\u00e0, quy\u1ebft-t\u00e2m c\u00f9ng ti\u1ebfn-t\u1edbi v\u00e0 l\u00e0 \u00fd ch\u00ed quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ea7u-t\u01b0 v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c ki\u1ebfn-t\u1ea1o \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3, kh\u1ea3 d\u0129 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i m\u00e3i thi\u00ean-thu. C\u00f3 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf h\u1ea1nh-ph\u00fac l\u1ee9a \u0111\u00f4i ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 v\u00e0 s\u1ebd c\u00f3. <\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u0110\u1ec3 k\u1ebft lu\u1eadn, n\u00e0y h\u1ee1i b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ed9c-gi\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, h\u00e3y t\u1ecf-b\u00e0y \u00fd ph\u1ea3n-h\u1ed3i c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh tr\u01b0\u1edbc l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean r\u1ea5t b\u00e0i-b\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf\u201d (xem <\/em>Tamara Rajakariar, Marriage advice from a divorcee, <\/em>MercatorNet 11\/4\/2014). <\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Th\u1ebf \u0111\u1ea5y, l\u00e0 kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eeba ho\u00e0n-t\u1ea5t th\u1ee7 t\u1ee5c ly d\u1ecb xong, nay \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ecbp \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i \u0111\u00f4i l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean kh\u00e1 k\u1ef9 c\u00e0ng. Khuy\u00ean th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi-khuy\u00ean b\u1ea3o l\u1ea1i s\u1ebd k\u00eau-m\u1eddi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ecdc ho\u1eb7c ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe c\u1ee9 t\u1ecf b\u00e0y \u00fd ki\u1ebfn ri\u00eang t\u01b0 v\u1ec1 l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean \u1ea5y. B\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u00e2y, ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 \u00fd-ki\u1ebfn ph\u1ea3n-h\u1ed3i g\u00ec cho n\u00ean n\u1ed7i, b\u00e8n m\u1eddi b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 m\u1eddi t\u00f4i, ta c\u1ee9 th\u1ebf m\u00e0 tr\u00edch d\u1eabn c\u00e1c c\u00e2u n\u00f3i ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ecdc kh\u00e1 r\u00e0nh r\u1ebd.<\/p>\n

Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft l\u00e0 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1ch qua \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 t\u00ean l\u00e0 Al Brennan, nghe c\u0169ng l\u1ea1:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cD\u0129 nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 ch\u00ednh s\u00e1ch n\u00e0o, l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean ra sao, c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 l\u1eddi kh\u00f4n-ngoan v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1eadt, d\u00f9 chuy\u1ec7n khuy\u00ean r\u0103n v\u1eabn l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng \u1edf huy\u1ec7n, nghe r\u1ea5t quen. D\u0129 nhi\u00ean, v\u1ea5n-\u0111\u1ec1 c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i v\u1eabn l\u00e0: sau khi \u0111\u00e3 nghe theo l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean \u1ea5y, ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng \u1edf \u0111\u1eddi \u0111em \u00e1p-d\u1ee5ng v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, m\u1edbi th\u1ea5y k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 ch\u1ea3 c\u00f3 g\u00ec h\u1eefu-\u00edch, h\u1ebft. Nh\u1ea5t th\u1ee9 l\u00e0 khi, m\u1ed9t b\u00ean ho\u1eb7c v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed3ng l\u1ea1i nh\u1ea5t quy\u1ebft \u0111\u00e2m \u0111\u01a1n ly d\u1ecb cho b\u1eb1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Hai n\u1eefa, l\u00e0: tr\u1ecdng-t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, d\u00f9 m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec th\u00eam ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed1i-x\u1eed t\u1eed-t\u1ebf th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111i n\u1eefa, th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c \u1ea5y c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng lay chuy\u1ec3n ho\u1eb7c b\u00e3i b\u1ecf \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tham-v\u1ecdng ho\u1eb7c m\u1ed9ng-\u01b0\u1edbc c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00f4i b\u00ean khi \u0111\u00e3 nh\u1ea5t-quy\u1ebft thi-h\u00e0nh th\u1ee7-t\u1ee5c \u201cchia tay\u201d. Ri\u00eang t\u00f4i ch\u1eb3ng nghi ng\u1edd g\u00ec vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0a nhau v\u00e0o bu\u1ed5i c\u1eed-h\u00e0nh l\u1ec5 c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec1-nguy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ee7 c\u1ea3 r\u1ed3i sau \u0111\u00f3,ch\u1eb3ng ai ch\u1ecbu ai th\u00ec c\u00f3 r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c n\u00e0o \u0111i n\u1eefa c\u0169ng ch\u1eb3ng th\u1ec3 b\u1eaft bu\u1ed9c h\u1ecd th\u1ef1c-hi\u1ec7n l\u1eddi-th\u1ec1 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. Th\u1eadt ra, c\u0169ng c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u l\u00fd do mang t\u00ednh \u201cr\u1ea5t b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i\u201d \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch gi\u1ef1t gi\u00e2y khi\u1ebfn \u0111\u00f4i b\u00ean ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu l\u1ea1i c\u1ee9 th\u1ea5y th\u1eddi-gian s\u1ebd v\u1ec1 phe v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh, ng\u00f5 h\u1ea7u m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u00fd-\u0111\u1ed3 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, th\u1eadt \u0111\u00fang l\u00fac. T\u00f4i ngh\u0129: \u0111\u00f4i l\u00fac chuy\u1ec7n th\u1ec1-nguy\u1ec1n s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1eddi \u1edf ki\u1ebfp v\u1edbi nhau c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 canh b\u1ea1c theo t\u1ea7m nh\u00ecn ri\u00eang-bi\u1ec7t c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i b\u00ean. N\u00f3i th\u1ebf, ch\u1eafc c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch \u0111\u01b0a t\u00f4i \u00a0ra to\u00e0 m\u00e0 ki\u1ec7n t\u1ee5ng, v\u00ec s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt kh\u00f4ng th\u1ebf! Th\u00f4i th\u00ec, ai ngh\u0129 g\u00ec m\u1eb7c ai, t\u00f4i v\u1eabn t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng s\u1ef1\u00a0 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi\u201d<\/em>. <\/em>(Tr\u00edch \u00fd-ki\u1ebfn ph\u1ea3n-h\u1ed3i c\u1ee7a \u201cAl Brennan, t\u1eeb \u00dac).<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 V\u00e2ng \u00f4ng b\u1ea1n n\u00f3i ch\u00ed t\u00ecnh, ch\u00ed l\u00fd v\u00e0 c\u0169ng ch\u00ed kh\u00f4n. B\u1edfi, \u00f4ng b\u1ea1n h\u01a1i \u201cba ph\u1ea3i\u201d n\u00ean cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 hu\u1ec1 v\u1ed1n, \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng ai n\u1ea5y \u0111i, h\u1ed3n ai n\u1ea5y gi\u1eef, c\u00f3 th\u1ebf th\u00f4i. C\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i ngay \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y, l\u00e0: hai \u00fd-ki\u1ebfn \u1edf tr\u00ean, m\u1ed9t c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1edbi v\u1eeba tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed9c-th\u00e2n v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1edbi v\u1eeba ph\u1ea3n-h\u1ed3i, c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 nam-nhi ch\u00ed trai c\u1ea3. Th\u1ebf c\u00f2n, \u00fd-ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a gi\u1edbi ph\u1ee5-n\u1eef th\u00ec sao? \u0110\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e2y, l\u1ea1i xin gi\u1edbi-thi\u1ec7u c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n \u0111ang \u0111\u1ecdc ho\u1eb7c \u0111ang nghe nh\u1eefng gi\u00f2ng ch\u1ea3y n\u00e0y, \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a n\u1eef-l\u01b0u n\u1ecd c\u00f3 t\u00ean l\u00e0 Susan Reibel Moore, c\u0169ng t\u1eeb \u00dac vi\u1ebft nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cC\u1ee9 s\u1ef1 th\u01b0\u1eddng, t\u00f4i r\u1ea5t th\u00edch \u00fd-t\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng v\u1ecb d\u00e1m c\u00f3 l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean nh\u01b0 tr\u00ean, n\u00ean c\u1ee9 t\u1ef1 nh\u1ee7 m\u00e3i r\u1eb1ng: t\u1ea1i sao t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 khuy\u00ean hay nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf m\u00e0 v\u1eabn c\u1ee9 quy\u1ebft-\u0111\u1ecbnh ly d\u1ecb nh\u01b0 th\u01b0\u1eddng? Nghi\u00ean-c\u1ee9u nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng-h\u1ee3p, b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n t\u00f4i c\u0169ng th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng: gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng-h\u1ee3p c\u1ee7a ph\u00e2n n\u1eeda c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p ph\u1ed1i-ng\u1eabu quy\u1ebft chia tay, hay ly d\u1ecb v\u00ec h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng tin v\u00e0o chuy\u1ec7n ly d\u1ecb ch\u00fat n\u00e0o h\u1ebft, m\u00e0 l\u00e0: h\u1ecd b\u1ecb \u0111\u00e2m b\u1ecb ch\u00e9m b\u1edfi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng o\u00e1i-o\u0103m th\u00f4i. T\u00f4i bi\u1ebft kh\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u c\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y nh\u1ea5t. V\u1edbi t\u01b0-c\u00e1ch l\u00e0 c\u00e1-th\u1ec3, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5-thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o nhau, \u0111\u1ea5y ch\u1ee9! Th\u1eadt ra th\u00ec, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00f3i: t\u00ednh v\u1ecb-k\u1ef7 v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u01a1ng-y\u00eau h\u00e0i-ho\u00e0 v\u1eabn ph\u1ee5-thu\u1ed9c nhau. T\u00f4i, th\u00ec t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng ngh\u0129 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. B\u1eb5ng nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m, t\u00f4i nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng: ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u00f4ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng \u00edch-k\u1ef7 th\u01b0\u1eddng mu\u1ed1n \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn ly-d\u1ecb nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 khi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 t\u00ednh \u00edch-k\u1ef7 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf l\u1ea1i hay kh\u01b0\u1edbc-t\u1eeb kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu l\u1eafng-nghe ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0m theo l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean-can c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4n ngoan h\u01a1n h\u1ecd. <\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0D\u0129 nhi\u00ean, \u0111i\u1ec1u d\u1ec5 th\u1ea5y trong \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u0111\u1eb7c-bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 gi\u1edbi tr\u1ebb, l\u00e0 c\u1ee9 c\u01b0\u1edbi nhau theo c\u00e1ch kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea5y kh\u00f4n ngoan cho l\u1eafm. V\u00e0, d\u0129 nhi\u00ean trong c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng-h\u1ee3p ly-d\u1ecb ta th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ea5y, c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 xung \u0111\u1ed9t v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb. V\u00ec, h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng kh\u00f4n-ngoan cho l\u1eafm khi quy\u1ebft-\u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00f4n-nh\u00e2n, tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, c\u00e0ng kh\u00f3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft h\u01a1n n\u1eefa. Tuy nhi\u00ean, b\u1eb1ng v\u00e0o l\u00fd-do ch\u00ednh-\u0111\u00e1ng, th\u00ec nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng \u0111\u1ea1o thu\u1ed9c t\u00f4n-gi\u00e1o kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1eabn thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eebng n\u00ean \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh ly d\u1ecb m\u1edbi hay, m\u1edbi t\u1ed1t. V\u00e0, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf l\u1ea1i hay nghi\u00eang v\u1ec1 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng-c\u00e1ch c\u1ed1 gi\u00fap cho hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u1edf v\u1edbi nhau cho d\u00e0i l\u00e2u ng\u00f5 h\u1ea7u ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf r\u1eb1ng: h\u00f4n-nh\u00e2n cho ph\u1ea3i ph\u00e9p v\u1eabn l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u hay \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi\u201d. (xem th\u00eam MercatorNet 11\/4\/2014).<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Qu\u1ea3 y nh\u01b0 r\u1eb1ng: \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ea1o r\u1ed3i, th\u00ec bao gi\u1edd h\u1ecd c\u0169ng l\u00e0m m\u1ecdi c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eefng ai c\u00f3 quan-h\u1ec7 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 v\u00e0 h\u1ecd h\u00e0ng v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh, s\u1ed1ng cho t\u1ed1t\/cho \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ea3 trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n-nh\u00e2n, \u0111\u00f4i l\u1ee9a.<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 V\u1edbi con d\u00e2n nh\u00e0 \u0110\u1ea1o th\u00ec nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. Nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, t\u1ee9c: trong m\u1ecdi t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng c\u00f3 l\u1ebd \u0111\u1ea1o v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eddi, th\u00ec l\u00fac n\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i \u0110\u1ea1o c\u0169ng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng suy-t\u01b0 v\u00e0 suy-t\u00ednh cho ph\u1ea3i \u0110\u1ea1o, \u0111\u1eb9p \u0111\u1eddi. C\u00f2n ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eddi l\u1ea1i gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngh\u1ec7 s\u0129, c\u1ee9 h\u00e1t r\u1eb1ng:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cH\u1ed3n em t\u00ecm n\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e1u,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

T\u00ecnh em ch\u1edd th\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111au,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

L\u00f2ng em ch\u01b0a t\u00e0n,\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Xin \u0111\u1eebng ph\u1ee5 nhau.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Xin \u0111\u1eebng ph\u1ee5 nhau.\u201d\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

(Ph\u1ea1m Duy \u2013 b\u0111d<\/em>)<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/em>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eddi h\u00e1t v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1eddi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, ch\u00ed \u00edt l\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u00f3 d\u00ednh d\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ebfn ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng t\u1ec7. T\u1ec7 h\u01a1n c\u1ea3, l\u00e0: nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft h\u00e1t ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng h\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, m\u1edbi \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3. S\u1ee3 h\u01a1n c\u1ea3, l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ee9 ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 suy v\u1ec1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3 nh\u1ea5t ph\u1ea3i k\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng ch\u1ebf ra c\u00e1c c\u00e2u danh ng\u00f4n\/t\u1ee5c ng\u1eef r\u1ea5t th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i, nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u201cK<\/em>h\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 n\u00e0o c\u0169ng \u0111\u1eb9p, v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb9p n\u00e0o c\u0169ng l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef x\u1ea5u, ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh r\u1ea5t x\u1ea5u.<\/em><\/p>\n

-Ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 hai giai \u0111o\u1ea1n duy nh\u1ea5t trong \u0111\u1eddi m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u g\u00ec c\u1ea3 v\u1ec1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef: tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi c\u01b0\u1edbi v\u00e0 sau khi c\u01b0\u1edbi.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 -Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o khuy\u00ean ta \u0111\u00fang khi\u00a0 ta sai l\u00e0 th\u1ea7y ta,
\nng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o ch\u1eedi\u00a0 ta\u00a0 sai\u00a0 khi ta \u0111\u00fang….\u0111\u00edch th\u1ecb l\u00e0 v\u1ee3 ta.<\/em><\/p>\n

-Th\u00e0 hun em m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n r\u1ed3i \u0103n t\u00e1t
\nC\u00f2n h\u01a1n c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi nh\u00ecn th\u1eb1ng kh\u00e1c hun em<\/em><\/p>\n

-Ga-l\u0103ng (gallant) l\u00e0 c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 -H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n lu\u00f4n t\u1eb7ng b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1eb7c \u00e2n:
\nch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 ai c\u00f3 n\u00f3 m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ly d\u1ecb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 -Ch\u1ebft cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef m\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u1eabn d\u1ec5 h\u01a1n l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i s\u1ed1ng chung v\u1edbi h\u1ecd.<\/em><\/p>\n

-Bia \u0111\u1ed9c h\u01a1n r\u01b0\u1ee3u, b\u1eb1ng ch\u1ee9ng tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 “m\u1ed9 bia ” m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 “m\u1ed9 r\u01b0\u1ee3u\u201d. <\/em>(\u201cRanh ng\u00f4n\u201d r\u00fat t\u1eeb m\u1ea1ng vi-t\u00ednh c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng t\u01b0-t\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ea7y nh\u1eefng\u2026vi-tr\u00f9ng c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3).<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 N\u00f3i cho c\u00f9ng k\u1ef3 l\u00fd v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u00f3 d\u00ednh l\u00edu \u0111\u1ebfn ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ebfn \u00fd-t\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a b\u1eadc th\u00e1nh hi\u1ec1n \u0110\u1ea1o Ch\u00faa, v\u1eabn khuy\u00ean r\u1eb1ng:
\n<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cC\u00e1c \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ecdc th\u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y sao: <\/em><\/p>\n

“Thu\u1edf ban \u0111\u1ea7u, <\/em><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ea5ng T\u1ea1o Ho\u00e1 \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m ra con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 nam c\u00f3 n\u1eef”, <\/em><\/p>\n

v\u00e0 Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00e1n: <\/em><\/p>\n

“V\u00ec th\u1ebf, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta s\u1ebd l\u00eca cha m\u1eb9 m\u00e0 g\u1eafn b\u00f3 v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh, <\/em><\/p>\n

v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai s\u1ebd th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t x\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ed9t th\u1ecbt.” <\/em><\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 hai, <\/em><\/p>\n

nh\u01b0ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t x\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ed9t th\u1ecbt.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

(Mt 19: 4-7)<\/p>\n

\u00a0Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng th\u00ec, h\u1ee1i b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 t\u00f4i, ta c\u1ee9 hi\u00ean ngang, v\u1eefng v\u00e0ng m\u00e0 s\u1ed1ng tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh, c\u1ea3 khi c\u00f3 \u1edf v\u00e0o ho\u00e0n-c\u1ea3nh n\u00e0o \u0111i n\u1eefa, d\u00f9 \u0111\u00e3 l\u1eadp gia-\u0111\u00ecnh ho\u1eb7c ch\u01b0a \u0111\u1ecbnh, d\u00f9 \u0111\u00e3 v\u00e0 \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ph\u00e1i, hay v\u1eabn c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n, h\u00e3y c\u1ee9 th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u00fang quan-ni\u1ec7m v\u00e0 theo \u0111\u00fang ch\u1ec9-d\u1eabn c\u1ee7a b\u1eadc l\u00e0nh-th\u00e1nh m\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 tha th\u1ee9 h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi nam c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1eef. Ch\u00ed \u00edt, l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i-ng\u1eabu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, \u1edf trong \u0110\u1ea1o hay ngo\u00e0i \u0111\u1eddi, r\u1ea5t kh\u00f4n ngu\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

Tr\u1ea7n Ng\u1ecdc M\u01b0\u1eddi Hai\u00a0\u00a0 <\/em><\/p>\n

V\u1eabn c\u1ee9 mong v\u00e0 c\u1ee9 \u01b0\u1edbc <\/em><\/p>\n

\u0110\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ed1ng m\u00e3i nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, <\/em><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ebfn h\u1ebft \u0111\u1eddi<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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